Monday, December 14, 2009

Our weekend

Last weekend me and my heroes had fun. It was a weekend full with activities the boys even went to bed early maybe because they were very tired after doing those activities. Our weekend started in Friday. In the morning after breakfast I took my heroes to the Pasar Tani then when we reached home I introduce to them a new activity, I asked them to pour water from one container to another container, this activity doesn’t need a lot of money but yes you need to have a lot of patient because the tendency for the kids to pour the water on the floor is very high..but because I have a bibik I don’t mind …hihi…My heroes really do enjoy doing this activity..

In the afternoon I asked my heroes to help me in the kitchen..the activity was to smash the potato because I planned to make some begedil..They really love doing this activity

“cuba khaizuran pegang those potato, lembutkan”,

“aah..lembut”,

“cuba khaizuran makan, dalam mulut pun rasa lembut kan”,

“sedap..lembut”,

“ha..sedap..abang suka makan potato?”

“suka..sedap”, “mama bagi adik ye”,

Khaizuran pun suap those smash potato to adik khairin…khairin pun suka…I was so happy cause khaizuran is a picky eater watching him eating one bowl of mash potato just make my day *wink* I did made mash potato before but he didn’t show any interest..I guess by involving him in the process of making the mash potato it is easier to make him eat them…

Then in the evening abah took the heroes to the club and we played squash with them..

On Saturday in the morning we played lego, abah memang expert in playing lego, very high imagination abah manage to built robot, gun, machine gun and mama just manage to built some building..hihi..then in the afternoon we read some books and in the evening they played with water in our small pool..actually I plan to do a baking activity with the boys..but mama was flat and tired…so I postponed maybe next week…


Actually I was inspired by a mother, she share her experienced and knowledge on how to stimulate children..her children are the same age as my boys so I really do benefit from her experienced…Thank You Munirah (actually I have been ur silent reader since 2007)…

Thursday, December 10, 2009

The discipline tool kit:

Successful strategies for every age

We've all seen them: the out-of-control toddler hurling handfuls of sand at the park; the whiny-voiced 3-year-old begging for candy in the grocery line; the sassy 7-year-old yelling "you can't make me!" at the restaurant.

And we've privately dissed their parents, reassuring ourselves that
we'd never be such a wimp if our child was terrorizing the playground or disrupting everyone's dinner.

But then it happens: the massive meltdown that takes you completely by surprise. And suddenly you
are that parent — the one flailing to figure out what to do. The truth is, every child presents discipline challenges at every age, and it's up to us to figure out how to handle them.

Why is discipline such a big dilemma? Because it feels like a tightrope act. On one side there's the peril of permissiveness — no one wants to raise a brat. On the other side there's the fear of over-control — who wants to be the hardliner raising cowed, sullen kids?

What we need is a comfortable middle ground to ensure that our little ones grow up to be respectful, caring, and well behaved.

First, the ground rules

To set the stage for discipline success, here are the bottom-line rules many experts agree on:

1. We're all in this together. Right from the start, teach your kids that your family is a mutual support system, meaning that everyone pitches in. Even a baby can learn to "help" you lift her by reaching out her arms, says Madelyn Swift, founder and director of Childright and author of Discipline for Life, Getting It Right With Children.

2. Respect is mutual. One of the most common complaints parents and kids have about each other is "You're not listening." Set a good example early on: When your child tries to tell you something, stop what you're doing, focus your attention, and listen. Later you can require the same courtesy from her.

3. Consistency is king. One good way to raise a child with emotional strength? Be consistent and unwavering about rules and chores, says Harvard professor Dan Kindlon, author of Too Much of a Good Thing. Even if you pick just one chore to insist on, your child will be better off, Kindlon says. "Being firm and consistent teaches your child that you care enough about him to expect responsible behavior."

4. Life's not always fair. We're so afraid of disappointing or upsetting our kids — too afraid, say some discipline pros. "If a child never experiences the pain of frustration — of having to share a toy or wait their turn in line — or if they're never sad or disappointed, they won't develop psychological skills that are crucial for their future happiness," says Kindlon. So if your child's upset because a younger sibling got a different punishment, for example, it's okay to say "I understand that this seems unfair to you, and I'm sorry you're upset, but life isn't always fair."

The tools: Babies, toddlers, and up

A disclaimer: These tools aren't guaranteed to work every time, and none of them will be right for every parent and child. But they will give you options — and what parent doesn't need more to choose from in his or her personal bag of tricks?

Tool: Lavish love
Age: Birth to 12 months (and beyond!)
How it works: It's easy to wonder whether you're giving in when you pick your baby up for the umpteenth time. Is it time to start setting limits? Not yet, say the pros. Responding to your baby's needs won't make her overly demanding or "spoiled." "It's impossible to spoil or overindulge a baby," says Kathryn Kvols, an expert who teaches parenting workshops on discipline and development.

In fact, the opposite is true: By giving your child as much love and attention as possible now, you're helping her become a well-adjusted and well-behaved person. "Your baby is developing trust in her parents, and she does that by knowing that you'll be there to meet her needs," Kvols says.

That trust means that in the long run your child will feel more secure and less anxious, knowing that you take her wants and needs seriously. She'll have confidence in you later, when it's time to set boundaries and lay down rules, and understand that you love her even when you correct her.

Real-life application: Your 4-month-old is crying even though you nursed her a half-hour ago. Your mother-in-law says to let her cry it out. Wrong, say experts: By crying she's telling you she needs something, even if you don't know what it is. Try walking with her, nursing her again, or singing to her. She needs to know you'll be there for her, even if all that's wrong is that she wants to be held.

Tool: Remove and substitute
Age: 6 to 18 months
How it works: Like the rest of us, young children learn by doing — so when your baby throws his bowl of peas off the highchair tray, it's because he's curious to see what will happen, not because he wants to upset you or mess up your clean kitchen floor.

That said, you don't have to stand by while your child does something you don't like. And you definitely don't want to stand by if your little one's grabbing for something dangerous. Take the object away or physically move your baby away from it. Then give him a safe, less-messy or less-destructive alternative. "Substituting something else will prevent a meltdown," Kvols says.

Make sure you explain what you're doing to your child, even if he's too young to really understand. You're teaching a fundamental discipline lesson — that some behaviors aren't acceptable, and that you'll be redirecting him when necessary.

Real-life application: Your 8-month-old keeps grabbing your favorite necklace and chewing on the beads. Instead of letting him, or continuing to pull it out of his hands, unclasp the necklace and put it aside, explaining simply that your jewelry is not for chewing. Then hand your baby a teething ring or another chewable toy and say, "This is fine to chew on."

Tool: Right wrongs together
Age: 12 to 24 months
How it works: Going back to the peas example above — there's a difference between a baby who playfully throws her bowl to the floor and a young toddler who knows she's creating a mess for Mommy or Daddy to clean up.

That turning point happens when your child becomes capable of knowing when she's doing something she's not supposed to, often around her first birthday. "When she looks at you with that glint in her eye and then drops the peas, you know it's time to do something." says expert Madelyn Swift. What you do, says Swift, is start teaching the concept of taking responsibility for her actions.

Real-life application: Your toddler's made a mess under her highchair. When she's finished eating, lift her up, set her on the floor, and ask her to hand you some peas so she's "helping" you take care of it. Talk to her about what you're doing: "Okay, we made a mess with the peas so we have to clean it up."

Tool: Emphasize the positive
Age: 12 months and up
How it works: This one's easy: Tell your child when you like how he's behaving, rather than speaking up only when he's doing something wrong. "It takes a bit of practice to get in the habit of rewarding good behavior rather than punishing bad, but it's more effective in the end," says Ruth Peters, a clinical psychologist in Clearwater, Florida, and author of Don't Be Afraid to Discipline and other books.

Real-life application: It's nap time, a potential battle zone with your sometimes resistant toddler. Head it off by praising even small steps: "It's so great that you stopped playing with your blocks when I asked you to. That means we have extra time and can read a story. If you lie down right away, we'll have even more time and can read two stories." Keep praising each improvement he makes in his nap time routine, and make it worth his while with rewards such as stories or songs.

Tool: Ask for your child's help
Age: 12 months to 8 years
How it works: Researchers know something parents may not: Kids come into the world programmed to be helpful and cooperative. All we have to do as parents is take advantage of this natural tendency. "Kids are innately wired to want to cooperate," says Kathryn Kvols. "A lot of times we parents just don't notice this because we don't expect children to be helpful."

A 2006 study backs up this idea: Researchers at the Max Planck Institute for Evolutionary Anthropology discovered that toddlers as young as 18 months already have full-fledged qualities of altruism and cooperation.

The way they demonstrated this was simple. A researcher would "struggle" to hang up a towel with a clothespin or stack up a pile of books. When he dropped the clothespin or tipped the books over, the toddlers would race to pick up the clothespin and hand it back, or restack the books. But when the researcher made the same mistakes without struggling — that is, without looking like he needed help — the toddlers didn't budge. They understood what it meant to be helpful.

Get your child involved in daily tasks around the house so she learns that everybody works together. "I recommend that parents find things their children can do, whether it's washing vegetables, feeding the dog, or sorting laundry," Kvols says. "You're teaching your child to be helpful, which is one of the most important life skills. We've found time and again that the people who are most mentally healthy are those who've learned to be of service to others."

While this may not sound like a discipline strategy, just wait: If you've taught your child to be cooperative, you can call on this quality when you need it. For example, giving your toddler a "job" to do can defuse some of the most common tantrum-provoking situations. Kathryn Kvols put this to use when her son, Tyler, refused to get into his car seat. She made him "boss of the seatbelts" — he had to make sure everyone in the car was buckled in before the driver could start the car. The battle over the car seat was over.

Real-life application: Let's take the grocery store aisle, site of infamous meltdowns. When your child wriggles to get out of the cart, you can hold up a box of raisins and say: "I need to get food for us to eat, and I need you to help me." Then hand him the box and let him drop it behind him into the cart. You can also ask him to be your "lookout" and help you spot certain favorite foods on the shelf.

Tool: Manage anger
Age: 12 to 24 months
How it works: Toddlers are tantrum-prone because they're not yet able to control their emotions, experts say. "Tantrums aren't really a discipline issue, they're about anger management," says Madelyn Swift. "Tantrums happen when kids don't get their way and they're mad."

Step one in this situation is to let your child calm down in whatever way works best for her. If she'll let you hold her, hug and rock her until she's quiet. If touching her only sets her off again, give her space to calm down by herself.

Don't try to talk to her about what happened until she's over the emotional storm, Swift says. But once it's over, don't let relief prevent you from addressing what happened. Instead, replay the tape and return to the scene of the crime. It's time to fix whatever mistakes were made.

Real-life application: Your toddler didn't want to get dressed and threw a fit, hurling toy cars around the room. Once she's stable, take her back to the toy cars and calmly but firmly tell her it's time to pick them up. If the task seems too daunting, split it up. Point to one pile of cars and say, "You pick up these cars and I'll pick up the ones over there." Stay there until your toddler has finished her portion of the job.

If she refuses and has another tantrum, the cycle repeats itself. But wait longer for her to settle down this time, and make sure she knows you mean business. Then back to the cars you go.

Tool: Talk toddler-ese
Age: 12 to 24 months
How it works: The secret to getting your toddler to do what's right — or to stop doing what he shouldn't — can be as simple as communicating in a way he can truly understand. Pediatrician Harvey Karp, author of The Happiest Toddler on the Block, tells parents to view their toddler as a "little Neanderthal" and talk to him as such. In other words, get down to his "primitive" level and keep it really, really simple.

Karp calls his communication strategy The Fast Food Rule because you're basically operating like a drive-through cashier: You repeat back the order, then name the price. Use short phrases with lots of repetition, gestures, and emotion to show your child that you get what's going on in his head.

Real-life application: Your toddler yanks a truck out of his friend's hands. Instead of plopping him down in a time-out or trying to explain why what he did was wrong — both strategies that assume your child's more sophisticated than he is — take a few minutes to echo what he seems to be thinking and feeling back to him: "You want the truck."

Validating your child's feelings will help him settle down, and once he's calm enough to listen, you can deliver your discipline message. But again, give him the stripped-down version: "No grab, no grab, it's Max's turn." Note: This may feel silly at first, but it will work.

Tool: Listen to "no"
Age: 12 to 36 months
How it works: "No" is one of the first words many kids learn to say, and it almost immediately becomes the one they say most often. As parents know, the constant negativity and refusals can get a little tiresome. Strange as it may sound, one way to prevent "the endless no's" is to try and take "no" seriously when your child says it. After all, we all have a tendency to repeat ourselves when we don't think people are listening, right?

Real-life application: Your toddler's running around in a dirty diaper, but she refuses to stop and let you change it. "Start by asking if she wants her diaper changed, and if she says no, say okay and let it go for a while," says Kvols. Wait five minutes and ask again, and if you get another no, wait again.

Usually by the third time you ask, discomfort will have set in and you'll get a yes. And knowing that saying no carries some weight will stop your child from saying it automatically. "The more you respect their no, the less often they use it," Kvols says.

The tools: Preschoolers and up

Tool: Use time-outs and time-ins
Age: 2 to 4 years
How it works: The time-out is one of the best-known discipline tactics, but it's also somewhat controversial. Some experts think time-outs don't work well, are overused, and feel too punitive — especially for young preschoolers. "When we say 'Go to your room,' we're teaching them we're in control, when we really want them to learn to control themselves," says expert Kathryn Kvols.

In fact, for some kids time-outs can be so upsetting that they trigger tantrums, something you want to prevent. To avoid this, treat time-outs as a brief cooling-off period for
both of you. (One minute or less is probably long enough for a 2-year-old. Don't start using the one-minute-per-year guideline until your child's at least 3.)

Let your little one know that you need the time as much as he does by saying, "We're both really mad right now and we need to calm down." Designate an area of your house as a self-calming place for your child (preferably this won't be in your child's room, which should have only positive associations), and direct him to go there for a few minutes while you go to your own corner.

Another possibility: Take time-outs together by sitting down side by side. You can also balance the impact of time-outs by instituting "time-ins" — moments of big hugs, cuddles, and praise to celebrate occasions when your child behaves well.

Real-life application: You said no dessert tonight, triggering a tantrum, and now your child's screams for a cookie are only slightly louder than yours. Explain that it's not okay for either of you to scream at the other, so you both need to calm down. Lead her to her self-calming space (Kvols says the only thing that worked for her daughter was to go outside into the garden), and then sit down nearby yourself.

When a few minutes have passed and the anger has subsided, explain that it's not okay to throw a fit to get what she wants and that you're sorry she's disappointed. (Hint: On a future night when a treat is okay, give her one and praise the fact that she's stopped fussing to get dessert.)

Tool: Try reverse rewards
Age: 3 to 8 years
How it works: Take a page from teachers everywhere — kids respond much better to positive reinforcement than to reproach and punishment. And they also like structure and clear expectations. Ruth Peters, the clinical psychologist in Clearwater, Florida, advises parents to take advantage of these qualities by setting up a system of rewards. You can make this system even more effective by reversing the usual rules — instead of giving rewards for good behavior, take them away for bad behavior.

Real-life application: Put a few things your child loves — these could be a Hershey's kiss, a new colored pencil, and a card good for an extra bedtime story — in a jar or box as the day's rewards. Then draw three smiley faces on a piece of paper and tape it to the jar. If your child breaks a rule or otherwise misbehaves, you cross out a smiley face and one treat disappears from the jar. An hour or so before bedtime, you give your child everything that remains.

The tools: Grade-schoolers

Tool: Teach consequences
Age: 5 to 8 years
How it works: We want our children to make the right choices — finish their homework before they turn on the TV, for example, or not play ball in the house. But when they don't, what do we do?

To handle problem behaviors, involve your child in finding a solution, says Harvard professor Dan Kindlon. For example, if he doesn't finish the night's homework, he may decide to wake up earlier the next morning to do it. Because this isn't a great long-term solution, make a plan for the future together: Does he want to do his homework before going out to play, or does he want to set aside time in the evening?

If he's been part of the planning process, it'll be a lot harder for your child to pretend he just "forgot." But be consistent in enforcing limits — if the plan is to finish homework after dinner, it must be finished before the TV goes on.

Real-life application: Your 7-year-old breaks a lamp throwing a ball in the house. Instead of scolding him by saying that he wasn't supposed to be doing this in the first place, tell him it's up to him to fix his mistake. Have him glue the lamp back together if he can — if not, he can do extra chores to earn enough for a new lamp.

Tool: Allow redo's
Age: 5 to 8 years
How it works: How many times have you wanted to take back something you said the moment you said it? Well, when your child sasses or snaps at you, and you snap right back, chances are everyone feels that way.

One way to maintain peace in the family is to allow "redo's" — a chance for your child (or you!) to say what she wants again in a more respectful way. "When you tell your child 'redo,' you're saying, 'I want to hear what you've said, it's important to me, but I want to be respected. So say it in a more respectful tone and I'm happy to listen,'" says Kathryn Kvols.

She and her daughter, Briana, even have a secret signal they use to tell each other to redo without having to say anything out loud. Asking for redo's when your child talks back keeps the situation from escalating. It also teaches her that speaking to people calmly is a better way to get the response she wants.

Real-life application: Your child screams "I hate you!" Stung and hurt, you immediately yell back, "Go to your room!" and the evening's lost. Instead, take a deep breath and ask your child if she wants a "redo" (or use your signal if you're in public). This gives your child a chance to articulate her feelings in a calm way rather than just exploding.

"You want your child to know that you're not trying to shut her up, and that you're capable of hearing the good and the bad," says Kvols. "Then you can address the issue that's actually at stake" — the underlying problem that prompted a regrettable comment in the first place.

Thank you for: http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-discipline-tool-kit-successful-strategies-for-every-age_1475318.bc

Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Bila Mama Marah


Semalam mama jadi marah sangat dekat khaizuran sampai dia menangis teresak-esak..kisahnya bermula apabila mama bailk dari kerja, khaizuran ajak mama main-main dekat luar tetapi sebab mama nak ke tandas mama lari je masuk ke rumah. Khaizuran pun ikut mama lari ke dalam tapi bila masuk dalam tandas khaizuran tak boleh masuk, dia pun ketuk-ketuk pintu mama tak buka dan suruh dia tunggu kejap. Mungkin sebab dia rasa tidak puas hati, khaizuran kunci pintu tandas dari luar. Mula-mula tu mama relax je suruh dia buka dgn elok tapi pintu masih tak terbuka, mama duduk diam cuba buat dia risau tak lama lepas tu dia pun cuba ketuk-ketuk pintu mungkin nak pastikan sama ada mama masih ada dan ok ke tak lagi. Kemudian mama terdengar dia panggil bibik, tapi bibik tak datang-datang pun apa lagi mama pun ketuk pintu tandas sekuat hati. Barulah bibik masuk dan bukakan pintu (kalau tidak dia masih berborak lagi dengan kawan dia..hey bibik pun sama). Mama pun anginlah...mama marah khaizuran siap ugut dia yang dia kena tinggal mama tak nak bawa dia jalan-jalan mama nak bawa adik khairin je..kemudian dia menangis sambil cakap


"mama salam..mama salam..." setiap kali kalau dia buat salah memang dia akan minta untuk bersalam sebagai tanda minta maaf

"mama tak nak salam khaizuran, mama tak suka perbuatan khaizuran kunci pintu" sambil tolak tangan dia..
sambil menangis dia masih hulurkan tangan dia...
"mama salam lah..salam"

mama bawa dia ke naughty corner suruh dia berdiri di situ, lagi kuatlah dia menangis. Kemudian dia datang lagi merayu nak peluk mama..mama elak diri..

"mama tak nak, khaizuran tak dengar cakap mama"
"mama salam..salam"

mama bawa dia ke naughty corner bailk suruh dia berdiri lagi dekat situ..kemudian bila nampak dia dah tenang sikit mama bawa dia ke tandas suruh dia buka kunci tandas...mama nak pastikan sama ada dia pandai ke tak buka kunci tu...rupanya dia memang tak pandai buka pun...

tak pernah mama nampak dia sesedih tu..sebenarnya mama pun sedih bila dia merayu-rayu sambil menangis teresak-esak..tapi sebab nak bagitahu yang dia buat salah dan perbuatan tu perbuatan yang tidak boleh diterima...mama kuatkan hati...mama perasan je abah macam kesian tengok khaizuran...tapi sbb nak mengajar dia kali ni mama bertegas...alhamdullilah sepanjang petang sampai pukul sembilan dia berkelakuan baik..tapi lepas tu dia mula nakal-nakal balik ~sigh~

Khaizuran dan khairin dan semakin besar. Keduanya sudah pandai menunjukkan rasa protes dan melawan bila kemahuan mereka tak dituruti. Dah tiba masanya Mama serius dalam mendisplinkan mereka. Sebenarnya mama tak suka cara sekarang yang tinggikan suara pastu ugut dia...

emmm mama kena baca buka pasal parenting on how to discipline toddler...ada buku yang nak dicadangkan?

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Mesra Mall

Since TMC is open Mesra Mall become quite “happening” lots of people. Mesra Mall used to be less crowded or may I say quite empty we could choose the parking spot that we like just walk freely without bothering that we might run into other people. Me don’t bother to dress up just wear Track suit and T-shirt but now I need to dress up more properly but still selekeh je mak budak ni…hehe..still wear track suit and t-shirt but the color of my hijab will match with the t-shirt or the track suite dulu-dulu tak kisah pun…hehe…well one good thing that in TMC there is variety of stuff and we don’t need to drive all the way to Chukai or Kuantan…but definitely I miss the time when my heroes could run and walk freely..I guess I should consider on wearing my heroes Baby Harness at Mesra Mall now so that I could keep an eye on them easily…huhu…I don’t know about other boys but my sons..fuh..just love to EXPLORE!


Sunday, December 6, 2009

Pandangan Peribadi Mengenai 2012

Hujung minggu lepas kami berkesempatan menonton filem 2012, setelah mendengar pelbagai komen positif mengenai filem ini kami pun teringinlah nak tengok kehebatannya. Filem ini mengenai hari kiamat yang turut menumpukan kepada nilai kekeluargaan. Namun begitu, keluarga yang dipaparkan adalah keluarga yang ibu bapanya bercerai, mungkin penceraian merupakan sesuatu yang biasa pada masakini. Sedih bila melihat konflik kekeluargaan seperti ini. Satu keluarga mempunyai satu ibu tetapi dua bapa atau keluarga yang ibu bapanya bercerai dan ayahnya hidup bersama seorang perempuan lain yang bukan isterinya tetapi hanya teman wanitanya, di mana teman wanitanya ada hubungan sulitnya dengan pembantu peribadi ayahnya. Elemen positif mengenai nilai keluarga yang dipaparkan ialah walaupun si ayah telah bercerai dengan si ibu tetapi ayah masih menjalankan tanggungjawab sebagai seorang bapa dan si isteri masih menghormati kedudukan bekas suaminya sebagai ayah kepada anak-anak mereka. Meskipun tidak tinggal bersama, ayah sentiasa menyayangi dan inginkan hanya yang terbaik buat anak-anak serta bekas isterinya. Selain daripada nilai kekeluargaan filem ini turut menceritakan bagaimana kerajaan menjalankan tanggungjawabnya kepada rakyat. Sering kita dengar bahawa sebuah kerajaan mengatakan “rakyat didahulukan” “rakyat mesti diutamakan” tetapi secara realitinya apabila sesebuah kerajaan itu tersepit di antara keutamaan diri sendiri dan rakyat, kerajaan akan mengambil pilihan untuk selamatkan diri sendiri. Kerajaan juga seringkali mengambil pendekatan merahsiakan banyak perkara daripada rakyat. Jika kerajaan mengatakan “Jangan panik, semuanya terkawal dan jangan terpengaruh dengan berita/sumber luar yang bukan dari kerajaan” sebenarnya keadaan sebaliknya. Nilai positif yang dipaparkan adalah tidak semua presiden itu mementingkan diri, ada presiden yang mahu bersama rakyat dalam keadaan susah dan senang. Mengenai pegawai kerajaan pula ada yang menjalankan tanggunjawab dengan baik dan ikhlas mendahulukan kepentingan rakyat dan ada juga pegawai kerajaan yang mementingkan diri serta tidak menghargai usaha dan pengorbanan pegawai bawahan serta rakyat biasa.

Fokus tentang fenomena kemusnahan bumi yang dipaparkan, dalam review yang saya baca ramai mengatakan mereka insaf sewaktu melihat kemusnahan bumi. Memang kemusnahan yang dipaparkan nampak semulajadi. Memang menginsafkan. Tetapi sebagai orang islam bila kita benar-benar menghayati ajaran Al-quran sememangnya kisah hari kiamat dan gambaran yang diberikan dalam al-quran sangat jelas dan terperinci. Cuma ia adalah sesuatu yang mungkin kita akan lalui ataupun tidak sempat lalui. Namun perasaan takut mesti sentiasa terpahat dalam hati kita bahawa hari pengakhiran itu akan tiba dan hari pengadilan itu adalah BENAR.

Menariknya pembuat filem ini, jika kita amati beliau mengambil kisah Nabi Nuh..perasan tak? Di mana mereka yang terselamat semuanya menaiki satu kapal yang besar, selain manusia binatang juga diselamatkan. Tetapi bezanya mereka yang terselamat adalah golongan yang terpilih iaitu meraka yang mempunyai genetik yang hebat seperti(cantik, genius, ahli sukan dll) yang dapat menyumbang kepada pembinaan ketamadunan manusia. Selain daripada itu golongan yang kaya, berharta dan berpangkat turut akan terselamat dan dapat menaiki kapal besar yang dapat mengharungi tsunami dan gempa bumi yang begitu dahsyat sekali. Berbeza dengan cerita Nabi Nuh yang mana sebenarnya golongan yang terselamat bukanlah mereka yang cantik, kaya atau berpangkat tetapi mereka yang BERTAKWA kepada ALLAH.

Harapnya adalah penerbit filem Islam yang dapat menghasilkan satu filem yang menggambarkan keadaan hari kiamat mengikut cerita dalam Al-quran. Menggambarkan keadaan akhir zaman di mana sebelum hari kiamat tiba Islam akan kembali gemilang dan walau sehebat mana pun seorang manusia itu tidak ada sesiapa pun akan terselamat di hari kiamat. Di hari pengadilan kita semua akan berkumpul untuk menimbang segala kebaikan dan keburukan kita….daripada menerbitkan filem seperti JALANG @ MAT REMPIT sudilah kiranya para penerbit menerbitkan filem berunsurkan ajaran Islam yang nyata lebih bermanfaat.

Thursday, November 26, 2009

Offer

Well as I mention before I have attend an interview by an IPTA in dungun…and the result is positive. Actually I didn’t expect I will get this positive result because during the interview the panels seem to not agree with my answers. They asked me about my commitment and my willingness to travel and be placed at other state/branch. My answer was if I have to be located in other branch beside Shah Alam and Dungun I will not go because for me my first priority is being a Wife and a Mother. My personal view is in order for me to be a good wife and mother I must live and be with my husband and children. I am not willing to live far from my husband and my family. After I gave this answer the 1st men in this IPTA started to question my commitment towards the institution. But still I hold strong to my stand and priority. I also said that if I became an academician in this institution I will be responsible as this job is also an ‘amanah’ and do my best plus I really do love teaching and are interested in doing research but if there is a situation that needed me to choose between family and my career of course and definitely I will choose my family that is a clear cut.

I am not sure yet whether to leave this IPTS and go to the IPTA. No decision has been made need to perform a lot of istikharah to get guidance from Allah which one is the best for me and my family. As for now the benefit that I see from this offer is that I will be a government servant so it is more stable and the opportunity for me to further oversea is slightly higher but the benefit is more towards my career life . Still need to discuss more on this matter with MOH . Tomorrow we will start our holiday so more time to discuss..pelikkan duduk serumah pun susah nak discuss..balik keje we both chat with each other for about half an hour then we have to stop because our heroes want out attention need to spend time with the heroes then at night chat a little bit but because of tiredness we will fall asleep then the routine start again…get ready to go to work and so on…emmm we need to go for a vacation! Ok of topic dah ni need to stop writing

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Nasihat

Nasihat yang panjang, tetapi amat berguna..Lapangkanlah masa dan minda anda untuk memahaminya...

APA PUNCA ANAK DERHAKA

Email : KAMARUL SADILA

Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w. "Berguraulah dengan anak kamu kala usianya satu hingga tujuh tahun. Berseronok dengan mereka, bergurau hingga naik atas belakang pun tak apa. Jika suka geletek, kejar atau usik anak asalkan hubungan rapat. Lepas tujuh hingga 14 tahun kita didik dan ajar, kalau salah pukullah dia (sebagai pengajaran)" dimana yang nak dipukul tu? Tapak kakinya... .. bukan muka, punggung, telinga dan ditempat-tempat yang sensitif... . itu salah..

"Jika dia bijak dan menang dalam sebarang pertandingan sekolah, ucapkan tahniah. Tidak salah kita cium atau peluk mereka sebagai tanda penghargaan. Kala umur mereka 14 hingga 21 tahun jadikan kawan . Tetapi selalunya usia beginilah ibu bapa mula merenggangkan hubungan dan ini menyebabkan anak derhaka".

Yang penting anak-anak harus dilatih sembahyang jemaah bersama, latih cium tangan dan peluk penuh kasih dan sayang, maka mereka tidak akan tergamak menderhaka . "Saya pernah tinjau, anak-anak yang lari daripada rumah, berpunca daripada rasa bosan. Belum sempat letak beg sekolah, ibu dah suruh macam-macam. Si anak rasa tertekan dan menyampah dengan persekitaran dan rumahnya. Boleh disuruh tetapi berikan hak mereka di rumah. Yang penting dia balik ke rumah suka, dan pergi sekolah pun seronok. "Mungkin ibu bapa punya alasan tidak rapat dengan anak-anak kerana sibuk.

Kita boleh cuba cara lain, balik di tengah malam, anak-anak sudah tidur, pergi bilik dan cium dahinya. Hubungan rohani tetap subur, walaupun anak tidur tetapi jiwanya sentiasa hidup." Jangan kita tunjuk sikap kita yang panas baran, pemarah dan ada kuasa veto kepada mereka, jangan suka mengherdik mereka dengan perkataan "bodoh, kurang ajar, sumpah seranah dan sebagainya yang merupakan doa kepada mereka". inilah yang menyebabkan mereka derhaka kepada kita...

DOA ANAK-ANAK TERMAKBUL

Lazim orang tua, pantang anak menegur walaupun tahu mereka bersalah. Jangan rasa tercabar kerana pesan orang tua-tua, bisa ular tidak hilang walau menyusur di bawah akar. Sayyidina Umar berkata, kanak-kanak tidak berdosa dan doa mereka mudah diterima. Begitu juga dengan Rasulullah, kalau berjumpa anak-anak kecil, Baginda cukup hormat dan sayang sebab anak-anak tidak berdosa.

Lagipun kanak-kanak kalau menegur memang ikhlas dan jangan ambil endah tidak endah. Perasaan anak juga mesti dihargai, sesetengah orang tua kurang bercakap dengan anak-anak. Kalau menegur pun dengan ekor mata dan herdikan. Si anak rasa tersisih dan tidak dihargai. Kepada kawan tempat mereka mengadu, bila jumpa kawan baik tidak mengapa, tetapi jumpa yang samseng, ia sudah tentu membawa padah.

BERTAUBAT SEBELUM MELARAT

Jika Tuhan menurunkan hidayah, segeralah insaf dan bertaubat. Tetapi apa caranya jika orang tua telah meninggal sedangkan sewaktu hidupnya kita derhaka dan melawan mereka? Bila insaf, selalulah ziarah kubur emak ayah kita dan bacakan ayat-ayat suci untuknya. Jumpa semula kawan-kawan baik ibu atau jiran-jiran yang masih hidup dan buat baik dengan mereka. Sedekah ke masjid atas nama ibu ayah. Walaupun ibu ayah sudah meninggal, minta maaf berkali-kali semoga ibu redha dan Allah ampunkan dosa.

Allah maha pengampun dan luas rahmatnya. Tetapi jangan ambil kesempatan buat jahat kemudian bertaubat. Hidup tidak tenteram atau bala turun. Cuba kita perhatikan kemalangan yang berlaku setiap hari. Misalnya tayar kereta pecah, jangan lihat dengan mata kasar, selidik apa salah yang telah kita buat hari ini. Pertama bagaimana hubungan kita dengan Tuhan, jika semuanya baik, turun ke peringkat kedua, bagaimana pula hubungan dengan ibu? "Pastikan hubungan dengannya sentiasa harmoni dan lancar. Tidak rugi menjalinkan hubungan yang baik kerana hayat mereka bukanlah terlalu panjang untuk bersama kita."

HUBUNGAN DENGAN BAPA

Lazim ibu yang dilebihkan, sedangkan bapa menjeruk perasaan kerana tidak dipedulikan anak-anak. "Hubungan dengan bapa sepatutnya sama dengan ibu tetapi dalam konteks Islam, kalau berlaku pertembungan, nabi suruh utamakan ibu dahulu.. ..

Tiga kali ibu barulah sekali kepada bapa." Bagaimanapun sebaik-baiknya, kasih sayang dan perhatian biar sama agar kedua-duanya tidak berkecil hati. Begitu juga dengan nenek, walaupun kata-katanya ada yang mengarut tetapi jangan melawan di depan mereka. Sebenarnya golongan nyanyuk dan tua mencabar kesabaran kita. Walaupun Allah tidak ambil kira kata-kata mereka tetapi kita wajib mentaati dan menghormati golongan tua."

USAH DERHAKA KEPADA MENTUA

Mentua mesti dimuliakan seperti kita menghormati orang tua sendiri. Kalau mereka kecil hati, samalah seperti tersinggungnya hati emak. Kita sayang anaknya kenapa tidak sayang orang yang melahirkannya juga? "Saya tahu, ada menantu kecil hati dan pendam perasaan terhadap mentua yang terlalu ambil berat tentang anaknya. Bersabarlah dan jalin hubungan baik kerana taraf mereka sama seperti ibu bapa kandung," jelasnya.

Kewajipan anak lelaki, pertama kepada Allah, kedua rasul, ketiga emak dan emak mentua, keempat bapa dan bapa mentua dan kelima baru isteri. Isteri kena faham, kalau dia sayang dan melebihkan ibu bapa, itu memang wajar. "Sebaliknya anak perempuan, yang pertama Allah, kedua rasul dan ketiga suami.. Jalan pintas ke syurga bagi anak-anak selain Allah adalah emak danayahnya. "Perasaan mentua perlu dijunjung kerana mereka berhak ke atas menantu. Seperti kisah Nabi Allah Ibrahim dengan anaknya Nabi Ismail.

Suatu hari, Nabi Ibrahim ke rumah anaknya dan kebetulan Nabi Ismail tidak ada dirumah isterinya pun tidak kenal dengan mentuanya. Menantu berkasar menyebabkan Nabi Ibrahim kecil hati. Dan sebelum balik dia berpesan kepada menantunya suruh suaminya tukar alang rumah kepada yang baru. Bila Nabi Ismail balik, isterinya pun menggambarkan rupa lelaki tersebut menyampaikan pesan. Nabi Ismail sedar itu adalah ayahnya.

Nabi Ismail insaf di sebalik simbol kata-kata ayahnya, bahawa isterinya bukan daripada kalangan wanita yang berakhlak, lalu diceraikan. Nabi Ismali berkahwin kali kedua dan bapanya masih tidak mengenali menantu. Sekali lagi Nabi Ibrahim melawat dan menantunya melayan dengan bersopan santun walaupun tidak kenal siapa Nabi Ibrahim. Nabi Ibrahim tertarik hati dan sebelum balik berpesan lagi, katakan alang rumah anaknya sudah cukup baik dan jangan ditukar kepada yang lain.

Ada banyak tips yang diberikan untuk mempertingkatkan potensi anak-anak anda dan seterusnya menempatkan anak-anak anda dikalangan winners. Tips ini jika diamalkan mampu menjadikan anak-anak kita sebagai winners…..insyallah

APA yang membezakan antara winners dan losers

Adalah mudah iaitu:-

Winner’s percayakan diri mereka dan boleh membayangkan diri Mereka dikalangan orang yang berjaya sementara losers merasakan diri Mereka tidak boleh.

Tips

1. Mulakanlah hidup anak anda dengan nama panggilan yang baik. Nama panggilan yang kurang baik akan menyebabkan anak anda malu dan merasa rendah diri.. (Dalam Islam sendiri nama panggilan yang baik adalah digalakkan).

2. Berikan anak anda pelukkan setiap hari (Kajian menunjukkan anak yang dipeluk setiap hari akan mempunyai kekuatan IQ yg lebih kuat daripada anak yang jarang dipeluk)

3. Pandanglah anak anda dengan pandangan kasih sayang (Pandangan ini akan membuatkan anak anda lebih yakin diri apabila berhadapan dengan persekitaran)

4. Berikan peneguhan setiap kali anak anda berbuat kebaikan (Berilah pujian, pelukkan, ciuman, hadiah ataupun sekurang-kurangnya senyuman untuk setiap kebaikan yang dilakukannya) .

5. Janganlah mengharapkan anak anda yang belum matang itu melakukan sesuatu perbuatan baik secara berterusan , mereka hanya kanak-kanak yang sedang berkembang. Perkembangan mereka buatkan mereka ingin mengalami setiap perkara termasuklah berbuat silap.

6. Apabila anda berhadapan dengan masalah kerja dan keluarga, pilihlah keluarga (Seorang penulis menyatakan anak-anak terus membesar. Masa itu terus berlalu dan tak akan kembali).

7. Di dalam membesarkan dan mendidik anak-anak, janganlah tuan/puan mengeluh. Keluhan akan membuatkan anak-anak merasakan diri mereka beban.

8. Dengarlah cerita anak anda, cerita itu tak akan dapat anda dengari lagi pada masa akan datang. Tunggu giliran anda untuk bercakap (Ini akan mengajar anak anda tentang giliran untuk bercakap)

9. Tenangkan anak anda setiap kali mereka memerlukannya .

10. Tunjukkan kepada anak anda bagaimana cara untuk menenangkan diri . Mereka akan menirunya.

11. Buatkan sedikit persediaan untuk anak-anak menyambut harijadinya. .

12. Sediakanlah hadiah harijadi yang unik walaupun harganya murah.

13. Keunikan akan membuatkan anak anda belajar menghargai. (Anak2 yg dtg daripada persekitaran yang menghargai akan belajar menghargai orang lain).

14. Kemungkinan anak kita menerima pengajaran bukan pada kali pertama belajar. Mereka mungkin memerlukan kita mengajar mereka lebih daripada sekali.

15. Luangkanlah masa bersama anak anda diluar rumah, peganglah tangan anak-anak apabila anda berjalan dengan mereka . Mereka tentu akan merasa kepentingan kehadiran mereka dalam kehidupan andasuami isteri.

16. Dengarlah mimpi ngeri anak-anak anda. Mimpi ngeri mereka adalah begitu real dalam dunia mereka..

17. Hargailah permainan kesayangan anak anda. Mereka juga dalam masa yang sama akan menghargai barang-barang kesayangan anda. Elakkan daripada membuang barang kesayangan mereka walaupun sudah rosak. Mintalah kebenaran mereka sebelum berbuat demikian..

18. Janganlah membiarkan anak-anak anda tidur tanpa ciuman selamat malam,

19. Terimalah yang kadangkala anda bukanlah ibubapa yang sempurna. Ini akan mengurangkan stress menjadi ibu bapa.

20. Jangan selalu membawa bebanan kerja pejabat ke rumah. Anak-anak akan belajar bahawa kerja pejabat selalunya lebih penting daripada keluarga.

21. Anak menangis untuk melegakan keresahan mereka tetapi kadangkala cuma untuk sound effect sahaja. Bagaimanapun dengarilah mereka, dua puluh tahun dari sekarang anda pula yang akan menangis apabila rumah mula terasa sunyi. Anak-anak anda mula sibuk mendengar tangisan anak mereka sendiri..

22. Anak-anak juga mempunyai perasaan seperti anda

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Bayang-Bayang

Malam semalam mama dan abah bawa khaizuran dan khairin bermain di luar rumah. Langit dipenuhi dengan bintang, pemandangan malam tadi sangat cantik. Apalagi bila ada banyak bintang di langit mama pun ajak khaizuran dan khairin nyanyi lagu twinkle..twinkle little star. Kemudian bila khairin nampak khaizuran berlari-lari khairin pun meronta-ronta suruh mama lepaskan dia supaya dia boleh berlari macam khaizuran. Jadi mama pun biarkan khairin berlari ke arah abangnya. Mama dan abah perhatikan dari jauh. Tiba-tiba mereka berdua bergelak ketawa bersama-sama, kedua-duanya berlari, berjalan dan duduk serentak tiap kali bergerak mereka akan gelak. Mama pun mendekati mereka rupanya khaizuran dan khairin kagum tengok bayang-bayang mereka ke mana mereka pergi apa sahaja yang mereka buat bayang-bayang tu akan sentiasa mengikut mereka. Alahai terharu mama tengok mereka bermain sama-sama dan tergelak mama dan abah tengok mereka jakun dengan bayang-bayang mereka. Satu saat yang sangat manis untuk dikenang.

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Touching

A very touching story..a reminder for us as parent..this story made me cry and realize how sometimes I forget..forget to be empathy towards my dear sons to really know and understand their feeling and behaviour their reason to everything that they do…

A story worth sharing 4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child. There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child. With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet and blanket! Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation: "Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..." At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy. A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up. However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy..... Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practise his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud too! Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's Syawal, and its Raya time. Everywhere the Raya spirit is in every passer-by...Raya song and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year. His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy. My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..." After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say.... I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the letter before they turn to ash. And one of the letters broke my heart.... Dear Mummy, I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear? After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife.... For the females with children: Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious. For the married men: Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients. Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable. Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones. : For those singles out there: Beauty lies in loving yourself first. With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than your well being.

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Judging

Sometimes without us noticing there are people who are watching and judging us. Last week we both went to Kuantan to service our car, while waiting for the service to finish we went to Kuantan Mega Mall. I requested to buy a pair of shoes for work and suggested to MOH to buy a branded Shoe. In Kuantan there are not that much of choice…we headed to the BONIA and Carlo Rino boutique. That is just side be side..malas nak jalan jauh…

Di bonia takde yang berkenan di hati jadi kami pun ke sebelah iaitu ke Carlo Rino. So ufa pun try beberapa jenis kasut and everytime if I asked MOH he will reply

“OK, belilah kita belanja”

Then after I have chosen the shoes that I want, MOH pun offer to buy some other stuff wallet and Hand Beg . But I was not in the mood at that time so I decline and reply

“lain kalilah abang, kita tunggu sale time Christmas ye ”.

But MOH still try to persuade me by showing one by one to the display Hand begs and wallet hoping that I choose one that fit my taste…

Before we left the Boutique a lady approached us and says

“your husband really love you ye”

Terkejut kami berdua…ufa cuma tergelak je then I jeling to MOH dia tersenyum dengan bangganya…hehe

p/s masuk butik Carlo Rino bolehlah offer suruh beli macam-macam dia nak belanja, I wonder if I masuk butik COACH will he do the same…hehe

Monday, October 19, 2009

Feeling Down…

There is times when I feel down..I just don’t want to go to work because I will feel miserable and lonely at work..I just want to stay at home with my boys …Quit my job.. not now I have to work to help MOH..we still need two income to support our life style..I need to count my blessing.. beside this horrible feeling I do love being a lecturer, I love teaching and studying but the working environment push me to sadness..feeling down…maybe it is my fault, I don’t know how to mingle with the local…and I don’t know how to organize..I don’t know how to manage people.. arrghhhh.. ulfa count your blessing

Beside work I have a beautiful life at home..two adorable son that love me who always wait for my arrival…when I open the door they will run to me hug me and smile at me…a husband that is loving and supportive he complete me in everything..a mother and mother in law that is loving and kind. A father and father in law that is very understanding and helpful....come on..ulfa be grateful..I am sorry Allah if I whine too much..forgive me..I am grateful Ya Allah

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Sambutan Aidilfitri 2009

Alhamdullilah raya pada tahun ni kami sekeluarga sudah berempat secara rasminya..Tahun lepas khairin tak nak keluar dari perut mama dah cukup hari pun sebenarnya tapi khairin tetap nak beraya dalam perut mama…

Tahun lepas beraya di Banting..maka tahun ni giliran untuk beraya di sebelah my other half (MOH) aka luqman..Pada pagi 1 syawal kami bersembahyang dan beraya di rumah abah di Kepong..oleh kerana tahun ni semua ada abah pun excited nak ambil gambar keluarga..malangnya semua terlupa bawa kamera termasuklah MOH jadi gambar raya diambil menggunakan kamera handphone sahaja.…nak sangat letak gambar raya tahun ni..tapi gambar ada dengan farhan terpaksalah tunggu dia dan kami balik ke KL untuk mengambil gambar-gambar raya tahun ni..adalah dalam satu dua keeping je..jadilah daripada takde langsung…

Sebenarnya ufa geram jugak dengan luqman sebab dia lupa bawa balik kamera..yelah pada hari-hari yang penting kamera takde..tapi sebab bulan baik hari baik ufa sabar jelah..nak marah pun tak sesuai maklumlah hari raya kan…

Petang raya pertama tu kami balik ke kampung luqman di Kuala Kangsar…destinasi pertama yang kami singgah ialah rumah opah sedara..adik arwah tok osman..ufa pun tak sure nama opah tu apa..huhu..luqman pun tak ingat ufa lagi kan..hehe..yang bestnye beraya kat rumah opah sedara ni dia hidangkan lemang yang dibakar sendiri…sangat sedap…tiada tandingan..lemaknya, lembutnya,masinnya cukup all in all SEDAP….Rumah kedua kami ialah rumah adik abah..rumah makcik nor…malam-malam sempat lagi kami beraya…menurut luqman abah memang time beraya akan pergi beraya hampir ke semua rumah sedara dia..3 hingga 5 hari abah akan beraya dari pagi sampai malam…

Abah memang bagus tak kiralah sedara tu pangkat lagi bawah dari dia pun dia tetap akan beraya…kebiasaannya yang muda pergi beraya ke rumah yang tua..abah tak kisah walaupun dia lebih tua atau pangkat lebih tinggi (pangkat pakcik dengan anak saudara) dia tetap akan menyinggah beraya….destinasi terakhir sekali pada hari tu ialah rumah opah dan atok kami sendiri di Kampung Jamuan Kuala Kangsar (belah mak luqman)..rumah opah (belah abah) di Bukit Chandan Kuala Kangsar kami tak pergi pun, sebab opah dah meninggal dan makyang tiada di rumah pergi beraya di belah suami dia di parit buntar…

Raya kedua..pagi tu kami sekeluarga pergi beraya di rumah makwa yang berdekatan dengan rumah opah…jalan kaki pun sampai…kemudian setelah ke rumah makwa abah dan mak ajak kami beraya ke rumah sedara di luar kampung jamuan…rumah pertama kami singgah rumah mak ina adik kepada mak..sudah empat tahun kami berkahwin tapi inilah kali pertama ufa sampai ke rumah mak ina..setelah ke rumah mak ina kami pergi beraya ke rumah pak ngah masih lagi di dalam kawasan kuala kangsar…tengah hari kami bertolak ke Taiping beraya di rumah opah sedara adik tok osman(atok luqman)petang kami bertolak balik ke kuala kangsar kembali untuk ambil barang dan bersiap ke gerik…

Petang raya kedua..sebelum ke rumah pak ngah (belah abah)di gerik kami singgah beraya di rumah isteri kedua pak ngah..ufa tak sure kat mana..sebab sepanjang perjalanan nak ke sana ufa tertido …dekat-dekat maghrib kami sampai ke rumah mak ngah rahah (isteri pertama pak ngah) di gerik…beraya di rumah pak ngah, dalam pukul lapan lebih kami pergi ke resort untuk berehat..awal pagi esok abah bercadang nak pergi melawat kubur pak ngah…pak ngah baru sahaja meninggal tahun lepas..

Pagi raya ketiga seperti dirancang kami pergi melawat kubur pak ngah di gerik…destinasi seterusnya adalah ke Bachok Kelantan untuk melawat ngah dan anis (adik luqman) yang baru sahaja dapat baby girl…perempuan pertama dalam keluarga abah…anak abah semuanya lelaki dan cucu yang ada pun dua-dua lelaki (anak ufa n luqman)…dalam perjalanan ke kelantan kami singgah makan breakfast di Pulau Banding..sangat cantik resort ni…highly recommended for those who want to have a peaceful vacation….letih betul…..masuk je Jeli jalan sangat sesak…kelantan jem sebab orang beraya…kereta banyak di jalan..kami sampai di rumah hanis petang, setelah 2 jam berada di rumah hanis kami pun ke resort untuk berehat..not bad jugaklah resort dia..cantik dan selesa..alahai nama resort dah terlupa..kurang aware sikit sebab sibuk melayan my two heroes yang kebosanan duduk di dalam kereta dan rumah orang lama-lama…bila dapat berlari dan bermain baru happy sikit…tapi still ufa jadi penat saangggaaatttt mengawal mereka berdua sepanjang masa…

Raya keempat kami bertolak balik ke KL…huhu…punyalah lama kami di dalam kereta….dengan jemnya panasnya…abah siap membebel lagi..susahnya dapat jodoh jauh-jauh..pesan kat anak-anak jangan kahwin dengan orang jauh..ikut kami berdua rumah mak ayah dekat je..dalam area KL dengan Selangor 1 jam setengah dah sampai..hehe…mama layan jelah..cuma sekali sekala tu selit jugak..jodoh mana kita nak tau dapat orang jauh ke dekat….

Kami sampai di KL pada waktu maghrib..penat sangat duduk dalam kereta lama-lama…oleh kerana semuanya tengah penat…esok baru kami balik ke Banting….Jadi tahun ni hanya pada Raya kelima kami dapat beraya di Banting…sayu je adik beradik yang bekerja semua dah tak de…takpe memang macam tu kan adat orang yang sudah berkahwin…di Banting kami banyak berehat tak pergi beraya sangat pun…

Alhamdullilah raya ni ufa dapat berkenalan dengan sanak saudara belah suami….sebelum ni ufa hanya kenal adik beradik mak dengan abah je..opah dan atok sedara memang tak kenal langsung..dengar cerite pun jarang sebab luqman pun tak kenal…hehe..(teruk kan kami ni)

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Lamanye Menyepi….

Banyak cerita sebenarnya yang nak diceritakan tapi disebabkan banyak kerja jadi asyik menangguh sahaja untuk menulis di dalam diary mama ni…

Lama betul mama menyepi..siap tak bagi pun ucapan Raya kepada kawan-kawan mama…huhu..

Sebenarnya di minggu akhir Ramdhan mama jatuh sakit..mama terkena gastrik..tak pernah pun kena gastrik tiba-tiba dapat gastrik yang teruk…sampai ke tahap muntah-muntah n cerit-berit..dalam hanya tiga hari mama kehilangan 7 kilo…huhu..(tapi berat tersebut tidak kekal elok sahaja habis cuti raya mama kembali ke berat asal..hehe)

Cerita raya pun takde…sebenarnya banyak je aktiviti yang kami sekeluarga buat raya ni..Cuma tiada mood nak cerita pasal raya disebabkan mama tak ada gambar raya..huhu..

My love dah berusia 28 tahun…29 september lepas merupakan hari jadi beliau…tak sempat lagi nak tulis entry pasal hari jadi my love..

Perkembangan khaizuran dan khairin..banyak updates yang perlu ditulis pasal milestone kedua-dua buah hati mama ni..asyik tertangguh sahaja..

Hari ni birthday Khairin..alahai khairin dah bukan baby lagi…huhu..masa begitu cepat berlalu…

Sudah genap setahun mama berjaya menyusukan khairin..Alhamdullilah..hooray..mama sangat happy..

Mama attend interview untuk jadi lecturer di sebuah IPTA..mama lepas first interview dan dipanggil ke second interview (baru sahaja selesai ditemuduga pagi tadi)...Tapi sama ada dapat atau pun tidak…tak tahu lagi…

Mama bercadang nak buat entry untuk setiap cerita yang disenaraikan di atas….Harap-harap berjayalah…

Ehem..ehem…walaupun dah terlambat mama still nak ucapkan SALAM AIDILFITRI DAN MAAF ZAHIR BATIN..buat kawan-kawan mama…

Khairin is 1- Happy Birthday Sayang

Khairin mama and abah love you…Happy Birthday Sayang..you definely complete us as a family. At first mama and abah was very surprised when we got the +ve result. But still we were happy and excited to have you. Khairin you are the gift from Allah and we promised to love and take good care of you. We have so many dream and plan for your future. We all love you sayang…

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Mama Ayang kan…..

Dalam Ramadhan yang penuh dengan barakah ni setiap hari mama dan abah dapat sembahyang berjemaah, semua memang tahu akan kelebihan dan kebaikan sembahyang berjemaah. Tetapi ada satu hikmah yang begitu berharga sekali yang diperoleh oleh kita ibu bapa secara tidak langsung melalui aktiviti sembahyang berjemaah. Iaitu membantu kita mengajar anak-anak kita tentang tangungjawabnya terhadap Allah.

Mama dan abah amalkan berbuka puasa dengan meminum air dan makan beberapa kuih, kemudian kami akan berhenti makan dan solat maghrib berjemaah. Khaizuran yang memang setia menemani mama dan abah turut meniru perbuatan kami. Mula-mula dia akan makan kuih dan minum air lepas tu akan bangun meninggalkan meja bersama mama dengan abah sambil berkata

“mama ayang kan (sembahyang)”
Aah sayang, mama kena amik air sembahyang dulu”

Terus je khaizuran ikut satu persatu..basuh tangan , kumur-kumur sehingga ke basuh kaki..siap masa basuh tangan tu gerakkan jari macam pakai cincin (sebab tiru mama punya pasal..hehe)Kemudian bila kami bentangkan sejadah dia pun nak satu sejadah…kali ni dia tiru abah..

Angkat takbir, kemudian baca fatihah..khaizuran keluarkan rhythm je sebab dia masih belum tahu baca fatihah sebutan yang betul hanya sewaktu dia sebut amin..masa tahiyat akhir jari siap naik turun macam abah..lepas bagi salam kanan dan kiri terus tadah tangan ikut abah..mulut kumat kamit macam tengah baca doa bila mama dan abah sebut amin dia pun turut sebut amin….pengakhirannya khaizuran akan sapu muka dengan kedua tapak tangannya..alahai comelnyeeee anak mama

Alhamdullilah pada usia 2 tahun khaizuran sudah terdedah dengan tanggungjawab seorang muslim. Harapnya anak-anak mama akan teguh menegakkan tiang agama iaitu sembahyang lima waktu sehari semalam hingga ke akhir hayat